Tuesday, May 26, 2009

The Bandaide

** I wrote this post a few weeks ago but was so busy with life that I am just now posting it...**

Today I’ve been doing some self evaluation and it’s all because of a snoopy bandaide. For some reason ever since I entered college and started buying my own bandaides I have been drawn to those with cartoon characters on them or patterns and colors. I never really thought much of it until this past week when both Dhrumil and I got cuts. Dhrumil happened by his cut while putting together our new grill and ran to put on a boring tan colored bandaide. Later it became dirty and while getting ready for a black tie event he asked me to grab him a new bandaide. I grabbed the first one that was in our first aide kit and it happened to be one of my snoopy ones… he shrugged, put it on and we went to the event. While there someone pointed out his wound in a “nice bandage” sort of way and the next day at church someone asked, “what happened to your hand?” I had to defend his manhood by stating I was the guilty one who picked Snoopy over tan. Yesterday I cut myself and again the first bandaide I came across was good Ole Snoopy. I was asked at work by a trader, "what did you do to your finger, interesting bandaide…" and then boom it hit me. My fetish with fun wound covers was not because I wished I was 5, but because growing up we never got the “cool” bandaides. No matter how much I asked, my parents would always revert to the tan ones. Little did I know, but I was spouting my newly discovered life mystery to the trader who shrugged and said his kids loved cartoon bandaides, I guess they’ll never struggle with my issues. So the question is… do I buy these bandaides for my future children or do I stay with the more practical and probably cheaper tan and let them discover what I’m discovering now at 27.

Thursday, May 7, 2009


It’s hard not to notice Mother’s Day coming up… the commercials about flowers and cards, the TV programs about moms, the stories and news spotlights and the call I got from my mom on Sunday when she informed me my gift can be to pay for the calla lilies she is planting in her yard. So it was no surprise when I found an article about moms on cnn.com. What caught me about this particular article was the list of questions to ask your mom. I sometimes wondered about these things, but have never taken the time to ask.

1. What’s the one thing you would have done differently as a mom?
2. Why did you choose to be with my father?
3. In what ways do you think I’m like you?
4. Which one of us kids did you like the best?
5. Is there anything you have always wanted to tell me but never have?
6. Do you think it’s easier or harder to be a mother now than when you were raising our family?
7. Is there anything you regret not having asked your mom?
8. What’s the best thing I can do for you right now?
9. Is there anything that you wish had been difference between us – or that you would still like to change?
10. When did you realize you were no longer a child?

I really like number 10… I’ve never thought to ask this, but I myself am always wondering when I will stop feeling like a kid.

When my mom comes for a visit next week I’m going to go out for coffee and ask her these questions… I’m looking forward to hearing the answers!

Happy Mothers Day to my amazing mom and to all my friends who are new moms this year. I’m looking forward to the time when I will join the ranks of the selfless nurturers and hope I can do half the job my mom did with me.